A recognition that you will one day die should motivate you to prioritize your relationships with friends and loved ones
Today marks an important tradition in Mexican culture: Día de los Muertos (Day of the Dead). This day is a profound celebration of life and mortality. Far from being macabre or associated with dark rituals, it serves as a poignant reminder that life is finite. Through toasts and remembrances, people honor their deceased loved ones while reflecting on their own eventual mortality. This ritual encourages a deeper appreciation for life, urging us to focus on what matters most—our connections with family, friends, and loved ones.
Dr. Siddhartha Mukherjee, oncologist and professor, has observed the priorities of those nearing the end of their lives. He explains that as people face mortality, their focus often shifts from pursuits like status, wealth, or material possessions to their most significant relationships. On their deathbeds, individuals commonly express variations of four heartfelt themes:
- I want to tell you that I love you.
- I want to tell you that I forgive you.
- Will you tell me that you love me?
- Will you give me your forgiveness?
Regret often accompanies those who wait too long to express these sentiments. Many wish they had been more open, vulnerable, or proactive in mending relationships, expressing appreciation, and nurturing connections. Why wait until the end to foster deeper relationships? Life offers countless opportunities to strengthen these bonds now. Take the time to appreciate those around you. Apologize to those you’ve hurt. Take risks in vulnerability and let go of grudges. Move toward connection, not isolation—before it’s too late. Don’t let regret shape your story.
If you’re looking to improve your relationships, counseling can provide valuable guidance. Whether it’s with your partner, family, friends, or colleagues, therapy can help you heal, grow, and create meaningful connections. Reach out today and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, regret-free life.
Written by Stefan C. Dombrowski, Ph.D.